The week leading up to this year's Mother's Day led me into a bottomless pit of lies and deception.
My children wanted to celebrate Mother's Day with Edrina, and I had the bright idea to tell Edrina that none of them could come. I told her I would cook an intimate meal for two. That's when it got scary.
She wanted pork chops. How could I disguise buying pork chops on Saturday, when we went to town, for 10 people, when I'm only meant to be cooking for the two of us?
I arranged for our friend Tami to pretend I'd invited her and her family to come for supper instead. She called Edrina to ask what she could bring. But there was only four of them. I needed 10 people. That's when I said, “Oh, by the way Edrina, Tami is going to bring her mom and dad.”
Okay, now we're up to eight. Edrina looked at pork chops in the fresh meat section. They come in packs of four. “We could just get two of these,” Edrina said.
Lie number six: “Oh, Tami's sister and husband might come. I need at least 12 chops,” I said. I'm also texting the lie between our four kids.
“I wish my mom could be out here for supper too,” Edrina said. “Why don't we get David to bring her?”
Another lie: “David's giving me attitude. He won't come, and won't bring her either. So, Michelle is going to take her to the farm for supper.” More texting.
It was when we arrived home from church on Sunday, after turning down an invitation to brunch, that everything became unravelled as I said, “Happy Mother's Day” and she burst into tears at the site of all our kids and her mom at home to celebrate.
This was a fun event but I can imagine how difficult and ugly a relationship could become if you are genuinely deceiving your partner. The lies I had to tell compounded with each turn.
Sir Walter Scott said, “What a tangled web we weave, when we practice to deceive.” When you are both working toward a healthy relationship, honesty is always the best policy. The truth, no matter how ugly it may seem or hard it is to deal with, will always move you forward when you truly love each other.