Though I am fairly cognizant of what I communicate to my children throughout the day, there are times when I am sobered by how many times I catch myself saying, “Just wait until I finish this” or “I really can’t do that right now.”
And though I do follow through with my promises of “right after this,” the majority of the time I am convicted to just say “yes,” and make the chores wait instead of the child.
There is no doubt that we, as adults, have things we need to get done in a day, and there is no reason to feel guilty about that, though I have been challenging myself to say “yes” more often. Recently I came across a cute book called Yes Day by Amy Krouse Rosenthal.
The premise of the book is that a little boy discovers how much fun it can be to do whatever you want. Pizza for breakfast? Yes. Spiked hair for school pictures? Yes.
I think it would be a pretty fantastic idea for children of any age to have a yes day. With my own children, I plan to read the story book a day or two before and get them dreaming about things they might ask for. That would also be a good time to lay out any ground rules.
For example, money is obviously going to be an issue and I’m not going to go and buy my children anything they ask for, or buy plane tickets to Disney World.
If a whole yes day seems too overwhelming, which I’ll admit it even does for me, you can definitely start out with a yes afternoon, or if you’re really timid, maybe a yes hour. I know my children would be so blessed to let their imaginations run and have a bit more control of their day.
If you don’t have children, I would even suggest that your spouse would quite enjoy a yes date night as well. I’m guessing my husband would be pretty hesitant to give me a yes date as I’d likely have him crafting, painting and building something.