Have you ever thought of yourself as a piece of artwork?
Some time ago, I remember telling William I was going to take in a few counseling sessions. I was having a bit of an identity crisis – not being able to see myself clearly through the clutter of my life. I was also beginning to believe the lie in my head that I wasn't measuring up in life – as a wife, mother and as a person in general.
During my sessions, I discovered that we are like paintings; works of art. We were created beautifully. Each of us unique.
Like a fresh painting, our colors burst through the light and reflect beauty in the eyes of those who cared to look at us fully. However, over time, life deposited dust over the top of that beauty. The bright sunlight faded some of our colors, and as pictures, we began to look tattered and jaded.
When that happens, life just doesn't appear to have the same vibrancy it once had to you. You're tired. You stop fully believing in yourself. You don't feel attractive any more.
Plus, your partner may also be in the same state. The beautiful painting you fell in love with has also become jaded over time with life.
So, what do you do?
Sometimes, you may have been tempted to look at other paintings and admire their brilliance. Yet, over time, even the most stunning painting will get tarnished.
This analogy reminds us to take time to get back in touch with the original painting. It may take time to peel away the layers of misconception, deceit, lies, bitterness and resentment that have caused us to see each other with less love than we started with.
As well as taking time, you may need help from an outside source. But just think of how exciting it will be when you can see that original painting all over again.