Every Saturday morning, I find myself in our bright and cozy kitchen, sitting cross legged at the kitchen table, cup of hot coffee in hand, and usually with a magazine and a notepad in front of me.
Across from me is the Tall One, with his own cup of Joe. We have no timeline or agenda, and honestly, don't even plan to meet there, but we end up there and inevitably we start dreaming and planning, while the kids seem to be off in their own Saturday morning ritual of peaceful playing.
It's been at that kitchen table, on Saturday mornings, where we scheme and dream. Looking out over the yard, and at the rest of the house, we hatch building plans, sketch out our ideas and process them through. We talk about the adventures we want to have as a family.
We go over calendars, research activities in various parts of the world and make plans to go there. Conversations often turn to taking stock of where we are, what we're doing and where we want to be. Anything is possible at that kitchen table.
The Tall One has always been a dreamer and I've always been a doer. I can well remember our first years of marriage (over 11 years ago now) where he would literally have to grab and hold me down so that I would just sit, think and dream – I was too busy always "doing."
It was also during those years that my spontaneous projects or adventures caused trouble breathing, sweating and likely small panic attacks in the Tall One. We've both grown a lot and can together enjoy both the dreaming and scheming knowing that we will do it.
While I don't put much stock in Valentine's Day (and even less now that both of our children's birthdays fall days before it), I don't mind the reminder to celebrate with the one you love. Fancy dinners, roses and candy are all wonderful but taking time for a simple date can be beautiful, too.
So maybe you'll find yourselves with cups of coffee, a note pad, a bucket list and great conversation this Valentine's Day.