As a guy, I have met men, locally, who would, without a doubt, die for the woman they love, if they had to.
Some of these guys are the type who love snowmobiling, dirt biking, ATV's, ripping through wood in the wilderness with loud chainsaws, hunting in the wild, and generally love hanging out with other guys doing guy stuff.
Yet, you'll hear them talk passionately and affectionately about the woman they love. You'll see them together with their spouse at a couple's retreat and fully involved in family activities. They are some of the most loving men I know.
Then, there are other men who are struggling to get there.
The reason many of us men find building a truly meaningful and bonding love relationship with our life partner difficult is because it involves a journey of the heart – and that's just something that most of us guys were not trained, or brought up, to do.
Generally, we were taught that crying is for girls, boys don't play with dolls, to grow up and be a man, that feelings are a sign of weakness so stuff them, and the absolutely horrible and totally damaging guys' relationship advice of "try before you buy."
Our upbringing, reinforced by the societal media around us and our own pride, makes it more difficult for us to punch our way out of this mindset.
Yet, if you truly want to "man up" and be a real man for your woman, you can. Join us guys who have discovered that we have been lied to. That true love is a sign of strength, not weakness. That expressing our feelings to our partner makes us stronger.
We are proud, not prideful. We live life with passion and conviction. And we're not afraid to ask for directions because it gets us to where we need to go. We put the seat down in the bathroom and we're not afraid to let our children put makeup on us when no one is looking.
We bring love and life to our partners. We are slow to anger and quick to forgive. We seek professional help when needed to help us discover and uncover our true greatness. We are men. Hunters, knitters, needlepoint professionals, mechanics of fast cars and owners of guns that blast the crap out of pop cans.
It's never too late to start the real journey to manhood.