Years ago, when our children were still in elementary school, Edrina used to do a really cool thing for their teachers at the end of the school year.
Instead of buying a year-end "thank you" gift, she would write each teacher a letter. This letter not only thanked the teacher for what they did for our child, but also listed positive qualities she found in that teacher. This was appreciated and more heartfelt than any gift we could have purchased.
Edrina and I used to leave little love notes for each other around the house, too. Sometimes I would find an encouraging note under my pillow at night, or a "thank you" note she’d snuck into my lunch pale. I would write her a love note, thanking her for marrying me, and stuff it in a candy bar I’d leave on her pillow.
Writing gives you the ability to say things you may never normally say.
Writing can also bring healing to a bruised relationship. I was so dysfunctional early on in our relationship that I was difficult to live with. At one point, Edrina began to lose feelings of love for me. As she fell out of love with me, she started to fall in love with the image of who a perfect partner would be. And it wasn’t me.
She did something smart, though. She wrote me a letter. Sat there while I read it. And after I did, we talked and talked. The next day, she wrote another letter – one I would never read. It was one she would burn after she wrote it. We have never looked back since.
This week, write a love note to your partner. Tell them some of the great qualities you find in them. If that’s too hard for you right now, get a large piece of paper and write “I love you” on it. Then put it under their pillow.