With such a morbid title, you may be wondering what this week’s column is about.
It’s about letting go of things in your life or in your relationship that are stopping you both from moving forward.
Edrina will tell you that I had to let go of my fear of almost everything. Despite being a move-ahead try-almost-anything guy, I lived in a lot of fear. I wouldn’t even answer the phone because I didn’t know who would be on the other end or what they would want.
I wouldn’t let Edrina drive into the city alone in the fear that she would crash and die. I always went with her and I always drove.
I had to let go of an explosive anger. It affected everything. I also had to let go of the addiction to pornography that I had brought into my relationship.
As a couple, we had to let go of name calling and putting each other down.
Edrina had to let go of minimizing what was important to her in her life. She also had to let go of her desire to be with someone else, if she wanted our relationship to work.
Symbolism has so much meaning, so here is an exercise you can do together.
You need the following – a small box with a lid; small pieces or strips of paper to write one thought on each piece; a couple of pens; three envelopes (optional); trust (essential); honesty (essential); and about 10 to 30 minutes of time.
Find a cozy spot where you can both sit and see each other but not what you are writing, unless you are both okay with that. You can play soft music in the background if you desire, to create a relaxed mood.
As you examine your life, ask yourself these questions: 1) What do I need to let go of in my life that’s hindering me or our relationship? 2) What do we need to let go of in our relationship to move forward in love? (Question 2 will require some joint discussion).
Write each answer on a separate piece of paper. Place them either directly in the box or in the envelopes first and seal them. Together, either take the box and bury it outside or both throw it into a garbage location where you can’t retrieve it. You will discover that something in your relationship will change for the better.
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