From the couples who come to us for relationship consulting, almost the number one stumbling block we find is pride. It’s both an individual pride and somewhat a couple's pride.
Pride has the letter “I” in it. Pride leads you to focus on the “me” in your relationship. This consumer-driven world we live in teaches people to treat their relationship like a bag of love – emotions they carry around to fulfill their own desires. When they need the fulfillment, all they need to do is dip into the bag and take out an emotion – just like a candy.
It teaches that when the emotions aren’t quite there in the relationship, when the bag seems empty, it’s time to move on to a new partner who can provide a new bag.
This consumer-driven mentality brainwashes many into treating their relationship as a commodity, and if it’s broken it needs to be returned to get “fixed” by someone else more qualified. The “technician” tells us if it’s worth fixing or not. Our question becomes, “Am I willing to pay the price?”
On the other side of pride is humility. Pride says, “What can I get?” Humility says, “What can I give.” It says, “I want to lay down my life for you. I want to give you every part of me. I want to place your life before mine. I want to love you unconditionally. I am here for you.” Humility allows you to confess to your partner if you did wrong. Humility and love allow forgiveness.
When you both work toward this lifetime achievement, when you both work toward this attitude to each other, you will experience a love between you that you never thought could exist.
Most of the problems Edrina and I faced in our relationship stemmed from me making myself the priority in our relationship. Becoming humble involves a continual change of mind which leads to a continual change of heart. It involves soaking yourselves in the right environment, books and people etc.
It involves soaking yourself in the God of Heaven and earth.
Are you ready?
Edrina & William are relationship consultants. Reach them at: http://www.AliveInLove.com/
