When I mention the name Bruce Willis in the movie "Die Hard," Chris Hemsworth in "Thor" or Colin Farrell in the 2012 remake of "Total Recall," what do you think of?

As I guy, I think of action, blowing lots of things up, a bit of romance – but hey, not too much now – fast-paced, high energy fight scenes, guns, lots of guns, amazing special effects, and did I mention blowing lots of big things up into tiny pieces! I think of men on the move.

I took my dad to see the 2012 remake of "Total Recall." Edrina's status on Facebook was that we were like a couple of little boys coming home pretending we blew up the front door to come in.

I have worked in the oil, trucking, and construction industries. These industries are stereotyped as "guy" jobs where you seldom talk about non "guy" things. It's almost like an unwritten code. For the most part, movies, fishing, sports, the job etc. ruled the conversation. Unless a separation was impending, or someone had issues with their life partner, you rarely heard any conversation about relationships.

But then, once in a while, one guy would talk about something great they were going to do with their partner - a romantic weekend away, or going on a fishing trip, or a supper date. One young contractor talked about taking his girlfriend to Paris, and surprising her by proposing.

As men, we sometimes find it difficult to deal with matters of the heart. We want to be Bruce Willis or Chris Hemsworth. We just want the "heart" stuff to work itself out. We want the relationship but see "feelings" as a sign of weakness. But this will slowly kill a relationship.

A stone looks strong but absorbs nothing. It's full of itself and repels everything. A sponge absorbs. It takes in, and gives out.

Whether you're a man or a woman, your heart needs to be like the sponge: absorbing love and giving love.

Remember, a stone still has a breaking point. So, do yourself a favor and leave "macho" to the movies.

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