What started out as a discussion with my adult daughter, exploded instantly into a colossal screaming match, on my side. And, when I say ‘exploded,’ I mean I literally erupted, yelling the first words that came into my head. They were hurtful to the core and I regretted saying them. William was shocked.
I didn’t want to cause any waves. So I had kept my prior feelings to myself. But, not causing any waves turned into a tsunami in the end.
From the beginning of my relationship with William, I have been known to keep things in that bothered me, or not share my feelings about certain issues that arose in our relationship. I did this because I felt my opinion didn’t matter or I just tried to avoid another argument.
I would keep it in for so long that then when something very insignificant came up I would bring it all up in an extremely dysfunctional way. I admit it was not the healthiest way to get things out.
I needed to trust that William would love me no matter what I had to say and regardless of his reaction.
Not sharing your true feelings will cause many problems in your relationship and will eventually cause a complete breakdown in your communication.
I have a partner who never keeps anything in. He has to get it out. So, he was always able to tell me how he felt and never seemed to struggle with this issue. I believe, because of this, he virtually forced me to tell him how I felt and to work until things were resolved.
It has been an extremely difficult road for me and I continue to work on this part of myself every day.
What you have to say is important even if you think it’s insignificant. It’s how you feel and that is what matters.
Trust your partner today to tell him or her what is bothering you. You may be surprised at how freeing this is and how it will open the channel for better communication in your relationship.
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